From survival and self-doubt to
embodied self-leadership.
Trauma-aware, somatic coaching for people who feel disconnected from themselves
and are ready to take full responsibility for their lives.
Example
- Your life functions, but it doesn’t feel alive
- You’ve done inner work, yet the same patterns persist
- You adapt, please, overfunction, or disappear
- You adapt to others and forget yourself
- You carry more than what’s actually yours
- You feel disconnected from your body, your needs, or your
sexuality
- Intimacy feels unsafe, overwhelming or disconnected
Is This You?
These are not weaknesses.
They are survival responses that once kept you safe.
“Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reclaiming who you’ve always been beneath the patterns that kept you safe.”
-Rainey Ellen
Before our work together.
Living from survival and self-protection instead of choice
Shame, guilt, or fear quietly shaping your decisions
Weak, blurred, or inconsistent boundaries
Overthinking, self-doubt, and self-gaslighting
Disconnection, numbness, or tension in your body
After we work together.
Living from choice, presence, and inner authority
Acting from self-respect, clarity, and truth
Clear, embodied boundaries held with softness and strength
Trusting your inner knowing without second-guessing yourself
Feeling safe, grounded, and fully at home in your body
What I can
Help you
with?
This work is for you if you’re ready to stop surviving on autopilot and start living from truth, connection, and choice. It’s about helping you remember who you are beneath the patterns you learned to survive.
Self-Leadership
Move out of victim mentality and into self-responsibility and empowerment
Embodied Safety
Reconnect with your body after numb-
ness, shutdown, or dissociation
Honest Communication
Communicate more honestly and open in relationships with yourself and others
Safe Intimacy
Navigate intimacy, sexuality, and touch with more presence and trust
Shame Release
Heal shame, guilt, and fear around being “too much” or not enough
Clear Boundaries
Feel safe expressing needs, desires, and boundaries
Rooted Healing
Release patterns in trauma, childhood conditioning, or family systems
Inner Trust
Build a deeper sense of self-trust and inner clarity
Embodied Authenticity
Live with more aliveness, authenticity, and embodied confidence
Sustainable Energy
Break cycles of burnout, overgiving, or emotional disconnection
I know this territory, personally and professionally.
I come from a history of abuse,
and I know what it takes to rebuild connection with the body, intimacy and self-trust.
My work is trauma-aware, somatic, and grounded.
I work with what is alive in you,
while holding a clear and contained process.
This is deep work. And it is possible.
The embodied self leadership process
A trauma-aware path from survival to embodied choice
This work is not about fixing you.
It’s about gently undoing the patterns your system learned to survive and helping you lead your life from the inside out.
Recognising what’s been running you
You learn to see your patterns, beliefs, and coping strategies without judgment so they lose their grip.
awareness
Restoring relationship with your body
We rebuild safety with your body, emotions, and needs, allowing sensation and truth to return at your pace.
connection
Choosing yourself with clarity and care
You learn to feel, name, and communicate boundaries in a grounded, respectful way without hardening or collapsing.
honouring
Living from inner authority
You begin to act from self-trust instead of survival, moving through life with presence, choice, and integrity.
embodiment
This is guided, embodied transformation.
“Rainey is such a pleasure to work with. Down to earth yet deeply intuitive; She knows exactly which topics to work with to get to the core of things and she knows which approach is best to do so. The combination of her practices and her clear view and feedback are a powerful one. The constellation practice gave both me and my partner so much insight in our individual processes. And the Tantric work helped us to find more connection from an authentic place. Very grateful for this grounded, wise woman and her work”
— Fleur JolieThis work is
for you if:
- You’re willing to look inward and take
responsibility for your healing- You’re open to working with the body, not only the mind
- You want real, sustainable change not quick
fixes-You’re ready to feel, slow down, and meet
discomfort with curiosity- You’re done repeating patterns that no longer
serve you- You want to relate to yourself and others with
more honesty and presence- You’re committed to showing up even when
it’s challenging
This work is not
for you if:
- You’re looking for someone to rescue or fix
you
- You want solutions without self-reflection or
embodiment
- You prefer staying in the story instead of
moving through it
- You’re not ready to feel your body or emotions
- You expect change without participation or
accountability
- You want fast answers rather than deep
integration
This work asks for courage, honesty, and commitment. It offers depth, clarity, and real transformation in return.
If you’re unsure whether this is a fit,
the first step is a conversation.
How we can work together:
INDIVIDUAL COACHING
Trauma-aware, embodied coaching for deep self-trust, clarity, and change.Founder-
you feel disconnected from your body, your needs, or your truth — even though you’ve already done inner work.
Together we work with:
Trauma patterns and survival responses
Boundaries, needs, and self-trust
Nervous system safety and embodiment
Moving from coping into choice
It’s a relational, embodied process that supports lasting transformation
3 or 6-month container
Ongoing Telegram Support
FounderCOUPLES COACHING
Trauma-aware coaching
For couples who want deeper connection and honest relating.-
feel stuck in patterns of distance, conflict, or misunderstanding and want to relate differently.
We work with:
Communication and nervous system dynamics
Boundaries, consent, and polarity
Triggers, shutdown, and conflict cycles
Rebuilding trust and intimacy
Held in a grounded, neutral, and respectful space.
3 or 6-month container
Ongoing Telegram Support
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FounderSOMATIC SESSION
Your body remembers even when words fall short.-
safety, release, and reconnection.
These one-off sessions support those who feel disconnected, numb, or overwhelmed in their body.
Session can be:
Rebirthing Breathwork
Trauma-aware Tantric Bodywork
All work is consent-led, grounded, and held within clear boundaries.
This is not performance or catharsis
it’s about restoring trust with your body.
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Held with care, depth, and consent.
Group spaces focused on education, embodiment, and connection.
Current themes include:
Women’s Work
Consent Workshops
Intimacy Workshops
All workshops are trauma-aware, grounded, and facilitated with clear boundaries.
WORKSHOPS & GROUP WORK
Learning together. Feeling together. Remembering together.EDUCATION
Honest conversations create safer futures.Founder-
around consent, boundaries, and communication.
Topics:
Body awareness and autonomy
Boundaries, consent, and choice
Emotional safety and clear communication
Power dynamics and responsibility
For organizations and offices, sessions are adapted to create safer, more conscious professional environments.
IMMERSION DAY
FounderOne day. Deep clarity. Lasting shift.-
for focused, embodied transformation.
This offering is for moments of transition, crossroads, or when patterns feel urgent and persistent.
During this day we work deeply with:
Core patterns and beliefs
Somatic and systemic layers
Shadow and inner child dynamics
Integration and next steps
An intensive container for those ready to go deep without long-term commitment.
Just imagine what it would feel like to live a life aligned with your values,
your truth, and your inner knowing.
To gently release what’s been holding you back and step into a way of living
that feels clear, embodied, and truly yours.
FAQ’s
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Many of the people I work with have already done years of therapy or personal development.
This work goes beyond insight.
It works directly with the body, nervous system, and lived patterns, not just understanding or talking about them.If you’ve noticed that you know a lot but still feel stuck, disconnected, or repeating the same dynamics, this approach meets the part of you that insight alone doesn’t reach.
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This is a very common fear — and an important one.
If you’re afraid this will be another thing you start and don’t finish,
that pattern itself is part of the work.We don’t push through resistance or bypass it.
We work with the nervous system responses underneath it, so change becomes sustainable rather than forced.You don’t need to be “better” at discipline to do this work.
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No.
You don’t need to be healed, confident, or have everything figured out.
You do need to be willing to look inward and take responsibility for your inner world.This work is not about fixing you —
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The work is deep, but it is paced, grounded, and consent-based.
Nothing is forced.
We work within what your nervous system can safely integrate.Intensity comes from truth and presence — not from pushing or retraumatizing.
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If you:
Want to stay focused on blaming others
Prefer to stay in the story without changing it
Are not willing to look at your own patterns
Are looking for quick fixes or surface-level tools
This work asks for self-responsibility and presence.
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People often experience:
Stronger connection with their body
Clearer boundaries and needs
Less self-doubt and self-gaslighting
More grounded communication
A felt sense of inner authority and clarity
Results look different for each person, but the common thread is embodied self-trust.
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Self-responsibility here does not mean blaming yourself for what happened to you.
It means recognising that while you didn’t choose your past, you do have a choice in how you live now.
This work supports you to step out of victim patterns without shaming your survival responses.
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I don’t work to fix you — I work to help you come back into relationship with yourself.
This work goes beyond mindset or insight. It works with the body, nervous system, and the patterns that live underneath your story. That’s where real change becomes possible.
What also makes this work different is that I combine lived experience with professional depth. I know this terrain not only through training, but through having walked it myself. That allows me to meet you with real attunement — not theory, not performance.
I don’t push for breakthroughs or emotional intensity.
I work slow enough for safety and deep enough for truth. Nothing is forced, and nothing is bypassed.At the same time, I don’t collude with staying stuck.
This work invites radical self-responsibility without shame — honouring what happened to you while supporting you to choose how you live now.I use a clear method as a backbone, but I don’t apply people to a rigid framework. Each session is guided by what your system needs in that moment — grounded, intuitive, and precise.
People often say they feel deeply met here — and that they leave with something even more important: self-trust, clarity, and the capacity to stay connected to themselves in real life.
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The clarity session is a grounded, honest conversation.
We’ll explore:
What’s currently not working
What you’re longing for
Whether this work is the right next step for you
There is no pressure to commit.
If it’s not a fit, I will tell you clearly.